Secure the Womb

So ladies, this is gonna be one of those real conversations. You know one of those conversations that just goes over so much better with a glass of wine. But if you listen to podcast while driving like I do, then made a nice warm tea or coffee. No drinking and driving ladies! I know this is a podcast is primarily for women who have already been hazed into the wonderful life of Mature Momma hood. But I also know that we have women here that are trying to start their journey or want information for when they are ready to start. For some it's because you're waiting until your career is at a perfect spot or you're waiting for the perfect person or you have fears of judgment because you would be a single mother or because you are struggling with infertility. Many reasons as to why you don’t have a little person screaming “Momma” every 30 seconds. Today this podcast is going to be for the ladies who are struggling with the mindset or decision whether it’s the right time. Today  I want you to see me as your girl that’s having a real heart to heart with you about some real ish. I might get all in your business. I might step on all of your toes, but know that’s coming from a place of love and want. 

I've had this conversation many times with many women in my office. Sometimes, I have the same conversation with the same women every single year. The conversation either starts with me asking about their desire to have children or with them initiating the conversation. Every single time the woman is very appreciative of the conversation because it’s something that’s not really talked about much in their circles or folk are just rude about it and they shut down. Side bar: Please stop being rude when asking about other women’s uterus. It’s nothing more rude than being in an open space with other people or blasting someone on their social media about when they are going to have a baby or another baby. You don’t know that person’s struggle so it’s not your place to just blast them out. Now if you’re in a private place and genuinely want to talk about fertility, then that’s one thing. I do think that it’s a healthy conversation to have as long as you both feel comfortable and emotionally safe, but if you’re just being funny or nosey, please save it. It can be very hurtful to the woman that wants more than anything to have a baby but different circumstances aren’t allowing. So yeah, be mindful and mind your own uterus. Especially if you have nothing of value to offer. Now, back to our conversation. 

After the conversation is open by either them or me, many times women will go down a long list of reasons as to why now is not the right time to have a baby. And granted, some of them are valid, but they don’t have a plan after that. They just know that now it’s the right time, but are putting a plan in place to help secure the womb for when they are ready. This reason vary from from I am trying to get my career up and going to I don't feel that I have time for a baby but I know that I'll have one later. Or I am waiting for Mister or Mrs perfect and I know that he/she is out there somewhere. Or I am pretty sure that I am OK with being single for the rest of my life but I don't wanna deal with the judgement of being a being a single mom by choice. All valid reasons to I don’t want to make it seem that your concerns aren’t heard. The problem is, your ovaries and uterus aren’t waiting for the perfect time. Time is slowly, or quickly, ticking away and there will be a time when pregnancy isn’t an option, no matter how much money you have. 

This episode will give you five tips to help you start the conversation surrounding childbearing and your options. Open your heart and tune in.